I don’t know about you but…
I want great friends
I want great relationships with great people
I want friends that support, envision, and inspire.
I want friends that are building something for themselves.
I want friends that I can look up to.
I want high quality friends.
If this sounds like something that you too, want in your life, then you’re in the right place. This blog is all about surrounding yourself with interesting, talented, and high quality people. Lately, I’ve been able to do that for myself, and it’s turned my life into a thrill ride where I’m eager to be out and about instead of behind doors and in my own house. It wasn’t always like that.
Growing up, I gravitated towards a certain crowd. This crowd liked to party, and that’s about it. A lot of my friends ended up in rehabs, jail, and military. Some went on to college. None of them are building their own business, or trying to grow something from scratch. (which is completely fine.)
I fell in love and had a baby, so my life is a bit different from theres most of the time. Long story short, I don’t hang out with any of them much anymore. We all work, and do different things, and though I still love them to death, and would always stand behind them when they need me, it’s hard to miss all the time wasting we did together.
So for months, I didn’t really hang out with anyone. I just sat around the house and hung out with my wife and daughter 24/7 which is also completely fine.
One day my wife and I looked at each other and said, you know, we really need some friends. We didn’t mean just any old random folks, we wanted to meet some high quality people that could be true friends, share goals with us, and help us grow. At the time my wife was jobless, and I worked to support us in a warehouse.
One day I came home from work, walked in the front door, and noticed that there were 30 different colorful pieces of paper taped to the wall. They all said something different. They were affirmations. One said, “I am so grateful to have such high quality amazing friends in my life.” Another one read, “I am extremely happy to have my job working at an organic food place.” (This was for my wife) Don’t worry I’m not going to pitch any spiritual stuff or suggest you do any of this.
We started reading those affirmations day in and day out, and nothing changed.
A few months went by, and then it happened.
I came home from work and my wife was super excited. She told me that an organic juice bar and cafe that’s located right downtown from where we live was hiring. She told me she applied. She couldn’t sit still, she was pacing back and forth. The affirmations she read every day for months were just now coming of use.
About 15 minutes after I walked in from work, her phone rang. It was the owner of the shop that she applied to. She wanted to meet up the next day at the farmer’s market. Long story short, we met with her, and Mandy (my wife) got the job. So what does this have to do with making friends?
Well little did we know that those two affirmations would fuse together, because since she’s started working there, we’ve done more amazing things, met more amazing people, and have much more abundant lives.
I started hanging out down at the cafe just because of the high quality people that go there. It’s amazing. I couldn’t believe my eyes. There were pilots that take trips to Bali, cancer survivors, health coaches, small business owners, big business owners, and every type of interesting person in between. It seems the one thing we all have in common is we know who we are, and we are building our own thing. I’ve never been to a place that has such a unique atmosphere and such quality people in and out all day long. From musicians and artists, to house flippers, and store owners, almost every person I’ve talked to at the cafe, has an amazing story.
Now, I’m not going to tell you to say affirmations day in and day out and you’ll get whatever you want in life. Though my wife and I are spiritual people, that doesn’t mean you are. So you might think all that stuff is crap. That’s completely fine, but I did just tell you a story about a time that they worked. Let’s look at what else we could take away from this story.
If we didn’t right the affirmations to attract all this positivity into our lives, what could we have done? We could have just decided to go where the high quality stuff is. We could just go to the healthiest cafe in town just to hang out, and then before you know it we would know all the same people that we know now.
It all comes down to one thing, one short saying. This one small thing could change your life for the better, and it’s the key takeaway from this post. The one simple thing you can do to attract more high quality friends into your life starting today is
Decide that you deserve high quality stuff, and go get it.
We all deserve the highest quality food, services, people, and life. Just go get it. Where there’s high quality things, there’s high quality places. Where there’s high quality places, there are high quality people. Everything in your life could be transformed into high quality from just deciding you deserve it, and then going to get it.
The reason the affirmations worked so well for us, is it’s easier to attract something into your life, when you know what you want to attract. The right decisions that were in front of your face the whole time are now clear to you, and you can choose your life path much easier because you actually know what it is you want. The cafe could have been hiring for weeks, but she didn’t find out until the idea that she wanted to work in an organic food restaurant had settled into her subconscious mind.
You deserve the best food, the best people, the best life. So go make it happen!